There was a typhoon and everything

July 23, 2010

Well, kittens, I’m sorry.

I had several posts planned, including using the principles of Non-Violent Communication to listen, the patterns of conversational turn-taking, why not-interrupting is hard to reinforce…

But then I went to Hong Kong and taught classes all day, getting up at 5 and not getting back to the hotel until gone six.

And there was a typhoon.

So, well, yeah. No writing.

Hope you’re week’s been good.

I’m heading to China tomorrow for more of the same, so I might not get much writing done there either…

We’ll see.

You’re great though.

Yes, you.

And those posts are still in my head, so they’ll be here soon.

Have a great weekend.

See you in China.

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