From the monthly archives:

December 2009

How to make sure you fight at Christmas

Update: Realised too late that I should have called this post I’m Dreaming Of A Fight Christmas. Damn. I hate missed opportunities for puns. Especially seasonal ones. Next year… Well, all you Buddhists, yoginis, and other students of mindful communication – you’re in danger of having an unnaturally peaceful holiday season. And in danger of [...]

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Friday list #7 – it’s basically links

Because learning noticing is important. Let’s pretend it’s Friday, eh? Conflict-y type noticings It seems that I’ve put most of my conflict noticings in posts this week. Here’s one on why peripheral awareness helps. One on how to get mindful in the midst of… stuff. That’s about the size of it this week. Meta-blogging noticings [...]

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Go wide

Going wide is a simple practice. Closing (especially anger/fear) seems to involve a narrow focus (duh). Like a kind of tunnel vision. I find that putting your attention on the edges of your peripheral vision seems to help keep open, to just get a whisper of perspective. It seems to work for me as a [...]

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Why you need to work on your (emotional) stuff

I’ve been noticing that a lot of the content here is about me sorting out my stuff. I mean, yes, blogging is free therapy (thanks Havi). I’m surprised that despite having about 569 technique article ideas,  I’m not writing much about conflict resolution techniques, but mainly about making me less grumpy. Knowing your way around [...]

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The Blog Police Can Suck It.

(This is meta-blogging – you don’t have to read it if you’re here for the conflict-y stuff.) I didn’t realise how many rules I had internalised about blogging (from all those social media bloggers) until I got stuck again in writing here. Er.. how long’s it been? Six weeks or something? And it’s not even [...]

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Help! I can’t separate fantasy from reality!

I seem to have found a way into a kind of mindfulness, and a way to stop myself going into crazy emotional reactions quite so much. And it came from following my own advice. I know, weird, huh? And not a little post-post-modern. I find it difficult to separate fantasy from reality. Evidently. Now, before [...]

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How to be less grumpy

I am not un-smart, quite sensitive, a bit thoughtful, reasonably emotionally fluent, as it were,  and yet I’m still ridiculously.. touchy. At times. Here are the major things that have been going around and around for me about being a bit less grumpy. Obligatory meta-blogging I’m putting several things in one post, and am going [...]

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Friday list #6 – the Pema-walk edition

I’d like to make this a real update of what I notice is different from last week.  Before I go through the notes I’ve been making, let me talk a little about what’s been going on. Much as my week was meant to be focused on being less certain, this week has mainly been a [...]

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Blogging rhythm and blues

I’m starting to have a blogging- freeze,  so I’m posting to break it. I was in a dilemma Earlier on, during my walk with Pema, I had this going on in my head (are you ready?): I want to make a difference in the world, to help people wake up. I have some wisdom. I [...]

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Beware A and B

Here’s a tool that’s helping me out with the Being Less Certain. Tiny bit of meta-blogging So, obviously, the Internal Expert wants everything to be flagship life-changing content, and so I’ve been frozen on putting this idea into words for days. I’m working on getting better at aiming for a small step in the direction [...]

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