From the monthly archives:

June 2010

The 10 unconscious beliefs of the interrupter

I’m thinking that if as a recovering interrupter I can become conscious of my beliefs about conversation, perhaps I can learn how to stop interrupting and how to actually start listening. Here’s what I have so far… What interrupters (unconsciously) believe It is important that I say what is in my head. If I don’t [...]

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How to stop interrupting people – an experiment

If you’ve ever spent more than three minutes with me in a relaxed setting, you’ll know one thing: I’m a talker. Even worse: I’m an interrupter. Terrible. I am very aware that I want to be more of a listener, but I just don’t know how. I do listen, but as I listen, I find [...]

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Help me help you help me help you

(Hello to everyone who’s hopped over from EPW! Hey!) You know that I’m brimming over with ideas for things to put together for you, especially when I get back to England in September and have a bit of space and time. My question is: Whaddyawant? More specifically: What do you need the most help with [...]

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Fancy a date?

Hello lovelies Just a quick note to say I’ve been asked to make a guest appearance at Elizabeth Potts-Weinstein’s blog. EPW and I have hung out quite a bit on the Twitters and is the person who got me into making internet video. She’s pretty rad, man. EPW writes and teaches about speaking and living [...]

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You just gotta ride it – Friday Noticings

Because Friday is for learning noticing. On-topic noticings I blogged quite a lot about my on-topic thoughts this week. Especially about how worry comes from predictions, the role of permission and how important nourishment is. ~ Focusing on circumstances keeps me sane Part of the genius of Jen Louden’s Satisfaction Finder is how she gets [...]

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The Nourishment Barometer

Since I’ve been doing yoga most days and writing some (thanks to Bindu’s great project) I’ve actually been feeling something I’ve not felt in a long time. Nourished. The past decade or so I have worked for myself for 8 or 9 years out of the past 15. Four or five of those have been [...]

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Permission

Meta-blogging: I have a bunch of posts lined up, but none of them seem relevant today. So I’m just writing from my heart, which is a bit grief-y, to be honest. My Internal Editor wants to provide you with Useful Content, and is scared that I will Ruin My Reputation by writing about touch-y feel-y [...]

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How to worry less

I’ve had a bit of a realisation about the mechanism of worry. As some of you know, I’m moving continents in a couple of months. The Move has been the source of lots of tears, worry, you know, ahngsht. In my notes for a talk I’m planning about the not-freaking-out, there are three things it [...]

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What I’m scared of

Bindu asks that today we write about what we’re scared of. I am scared of: Being alone Not being alone Being stuck in a marriage that is cold Hurting someone irreparably Being cut off from God Feeling my longing for God Feeling how lonely I am in the world Coming up short Finding out I’ve [...]

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Big News – Friday noticing

Because ordinarily Friday is for noticing, but, this week, it is for announcing. In-other-news Announcement: We’re moving Things changed this week (not horribly) in a way that made us question where we are living. So we made a big ol’ list of pros and cons. As you do. Staying in Singapore or moving back to [...]

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