Comments on: Beware A and B http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/beware-a-and-b/ Stay gentle and useful in conflict and crisis Wed, 08 Sep 2010 05:08:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Rosalind http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/beware-a-and-b/comment-page-1/#comment-50 Rosalind Sun, 13 Dec 2009 06:06:48 +0000 http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/?p=127#comment-50 you must be passing this telepathically! Homework-y example: I have an essay plan to hand in in two days, I haven't thought about it, I have too much to do to think about it. A) I waste hours researching rubbish and end up handing in a garbage essay plan which means I have to write an essay I don't want to later in the (course) year and end up getting crap marks because I didn't prep well enough (subtext:....and I must be stupid and therefore a failure because of all this!). B) I find the perfect info online/in magazines, write a brilliant synopsis of an essay ( article) which I can't wait to write and between now and writing become something of a guru on the topic ( subtext: I am clearly a gifted communicator with brilliant insights into this topic!) ....hmmm some work to do here on a few judgements I might have. But C and D came out as a result of talking to a peer who hasn't done the essay plan and isn't going to (because we have another silly deadline to meet) which made me think 'OH other options?!' so... C) I will do my best and get the foundations of some chapters and structure which I can research more thoroughly in the next few weeks, and not stress about tweeking it as I find out more about my subject. D) Some mag will write an article on exactly the topic I propose and I will plagiarize it completely (is that legal?!?!) GREAT thoughts, keep writing you must be passing this telepathically!

Homework-y example:
I have an essay plan to hand in in two days, I haven’t thought about it, I have too much to do to think about it.
A) I waste hours researching rubbish and end up handing in a garbage essay plan which means I have to write an essay I don’t want to later in the (course) year and end up getting crap marks because I didn’t prep well enough (subtext:….and I must be stupid and therefore a failure because of all this!).
B) I find the perfect info online/in magazines, write a brilliant synopsis of an essay ( article) which I can’t wait to write and between now and writing become something of a guru on the topic ( subtext: I am clearly a gifted communicator with brilliant insights into this topic!)
….hmmm some work to do here on a few judgements I might have. But C and D came out as a result of talking to a peer who hasn’t done the essay plan and isn’t going to (because we have another silly deadline to meet) which made me think ‘OH other options?!’ so…
C) I will do my best and get the foundations of some chapters and structure which I can research more thoroughly in the next few weeks, and not stress about tweeking it as I find out more about my subject.
D) Some mag will write an article on exactly the topic I propose and I will plagiarize it completely (is that legal?!?!)
GREAT thoughts, keep writing

]]> By: Kate http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/beware-a-and-b/comment-page-1/#comment-46 Kate Thu, 10 Dec 2009 22:42:03 +0000 http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/?p=127#comment-46 You are awesome. I'm going to go and try this now with the thing I'm currently worrying about. You are awesome.

I’m going to go and try this now with the thing I’m currently worrying about.

]]> By: Leila http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/beware-a-and-b/comment-page-1/#comment-45 Leila Wed, 09 Dec 2009 00:42:01 +0000 http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/?p=127#comment-45 Love it Andrew. I do so love any blog which specifies that there will and has not been the use of any positive affirmations. Especially(lets do a little dance here) when you are able to demonstrate the potential to shift stuff ie the absolute friggin certainty that things are doomed or whatever, with lovely clarity, using a simple and easy-to-apply tool that can be accessed with ease and ahhhh. Very nice thank you very muchly! I have much to angst about at the moment. Will see if my dementing little self can remember to apply this strategy and shift some stuff that's keeping me hemmed in. Also great for warning your readers that you may have a little time off teaching by the way. In therapy land as you may well know it's standard practise to make sure everyone is reminded that time away is coming up. So that there's not a huge feeling of being lost in the dark when they are needed sorta thing. So I think that gently reminding us of time off and roughly when you might be up and running again might indeed be useful. Plus you know it's really both inspiring and reassuring when someone who is committed to working on their stuff has systems in place so that they simply take time off to do other stuff whether it's a workshop or taking some holiday. I never want someone who is offering to, in some way, help me with my stuff to be doing this at the expense of their own health and well being. We want to see that you are practising what you preach and giving yourself space and time to rest and go more slowly. I think that's good practise anyway without wanting to sound all expert-y without actually being one! Ummm anyway that thought just cropped up based on some other blogging experiences I've had - as oppposed to anything I've seen here. But still it may be relevant in some way. All food for thought, Thanks Andrew. L Love it Andrew.
I do so love any blog which specifies that there will and has not been the use of any positive affirmations. Especially(lets do a little dance here) when you are able to demonstrate the potential to shift stuff ie the absolute friggin certainty that things are doomed or whatever, with lovely clarity, using a simple and easy-to-apply tool that can be accessed with ease and ahhhh. Very nice thank you very muchly!

I have much to angst about at the moment. Will see if my dementing little self can remember to apply this strategy and shift some stuff that’s keeping me hemmed in.

Also great for warning your readers that you may have a little time off teaching by the way. In therapy land as you may well know it’s standard practise to make sure everyone is reminded that time away is coming up. So that there’s not a huge feeling of being lost in the dark when they are needed sorta thing. So I think that gently reminding us of time off and roughly when you might be up and running again might indeed be useful.

Plus you know it’s really both inspiring and reassuring when someone who is committed to working on their stuff has systems in place so that they simply take time off to do other stuff whether it’s a workshop or taking some holiday.
I never want someone who is offering to, in some way, help me with my stuff to be doing this at the expense of their own health and well being. We want to see that you are practising what you preach and giving yourself space and time to rest and go more slowly. I think that’s good practise anyway without wanting to sound all expert-y without actually being one! Ummm anyway that thought just cropped up based on some other blogging experiences I’ve had – as oppposed to anything I’ve seen here. But still it may be relevant in some way.

All food for thought,

Thanks Andrew.

L

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