From the category archives:

Emotions

Tula… EAT something.

This is on the surface a ridiculously simple piece of advice but it has paid more regular dividends over the past few years than probably anything else. And it’s a handling/dealing with/managing/opening to emotions week, so it’s appropriate. And… it’s based around the little problem that our soul is shoved inside a chimpanzee. Thing is, [...]

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Do I have a Thing about this?

I gotta share something with you that’s helping me a be a lot more sane. For regular readers, you might remember parts of it. Here’s how it works for me (I’m going to write this as instructions, but I’m not sure if it’s gonna work for anyone else): ~ You feel something, erm, stressful (anxiety, [...]

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Go wide

Going wide is a simple practice. Closing (especially anger/fear) seems to involve a narrow focus (duh). Like a kind of tunnel vision. I find that putting your attention on the edges of your peripheral vision seems to help keep open, to just get a whisper of perspective. It seems to work for me as a [...]

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Why you need to work on your (emotional) stuff

I’ve been noticing that a lot of the content here is about me sorting out my stuff. I mean, yes, blogging is free therapy (thanks Havi). I’m surprised that despite having about 569 technique article ideas,  I’m not writing much about conflict resolution techniques, but mainly about making me less grumpy. Knowing your way around [...]

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Help! I can’t separate fantasy from reality!

I seem to have found a way into a kind of mindfulness, and a way to stop myself going into crazy emotional reactions quite so much. And it came from following my own advice. I know, weird, huh? And not a little post-post-modern. I find it difficult to separate fantasy from reality. Evidently. Now, before [...]

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How to be less grumpy

I am not un-smart, quite sensitive, a bit thoughtful, reasonably emotionally fluent, as it were,  and yet I’m still ridiculously.. touchy. At times. Here are the major things that have been going around and around for me about being a bit less grumpy. Obligatory meta-blogging I’m putting several things in one post, and am going [...]

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Handling your feelings, their feelings, your feelings about their feelings

Part Two of the Grand Manifesto on Conflict Resolution and fighting less is: Handle The Emotions Seems a bit ridiculous to be saying that dealing with emotions is important in conflict situations, but, er, it is. Not being neither a grumpy, over-sensitive arse nor a smug, overly calm arse is a life-long, constant… exploration for [...]

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