From the category archives:

Noticings

The ‘Question/answer format? Totally overuse it.’ Version – YoO Friday 5/52

This is the Friday review of week 5 of my Year of Opening (because it’s good to itemize my life notice things).
In which I try to get the ‘Question? Answer.’ format out of my system, but end up just loving it more.
Opening/ calm/conscious/ conflict/ crisis-y type noticings
My first reaction is to get over the [...]

Read the full article →

Opening Alarm totally works – YoO Friday 4/52

Crap. Missed last Friday, and now it’s 10.35pm and all I have is notes on my phone.
This is the Friday review of week 4 of my Year of Opening (because it’s good to make big declarations about lessons learned notice things).
Opening/Calm/Conscious/Conflict/Crisis-y type noticings
My Opening Alarm helps.
Like a lot.
Every hour on the hour I ask myself [...]

Read the full article →

Calm is overrated – YoO Friday 2/52

So, huh, the second week of my Year of Opening was really quite challenging.
Here’s my Friday roundup because scaring the bejeesus out of myself with uncertainty noticing can be reassuring useful.
Opening/calm/conscious/conflict/crisis-y type Noticings
Drama probably means I’ve hit a Thing and don’t realise it
The crisis part of the spiritual-crisis from this week has subsided and left [...]

Read the full article →

Opening is often about closing – YoO Friday 1/52

I’ve been putting up a Friday list for a while, detailing what I’m noticing about what I’m learning as I work on being more calm and conscious, and as I implement some of my own advice (!).
Seems to be really useful to check in once a week, and so I’m carrying on with this, especially [...]

Read the full article →

Friday list #8 – Sweet shop edition

Because it’s good to learn notice.
Conscious/calmness/conflict/crisis-y type noticings
I still lose it
Yep, I know it’s disappointing, but when I get triggered, I still jump into attacking/defending.
After 10 weeks.
I know.
Awareness of shenpa helps
Shenpa is (as far as I understand) the Tibetan word that often gets translated as ‘attachment’ but that Dzigar Kongtrül [...]

Read the full article →

Friday list #7 – it’s basically links

Because learning noticing is important.
Let’s pretend it’s Friday, eh?

Conflict-y type noticings
It seems that I’ve put most of my conflict noticings in posts this week.
Here’s one on why peripheral awareness helps.
One on how to get mindful in the midst of… stuff.
That’s about the size of it this week.
Meta-blogging noticings
Er, yeah, this one ended up in a [...]

Read the full article →

Friday list #6 – the Pema-walk edition

I’d like to make this a real update of what I notice is different from last week.  Before I go through the notes I’ve been making, let me talk a little about what’s been going on.

Much as my week was meant to be focused on being less certain, this week has mainly been a product [...]

Read the full article →

Friday list #5 – jet lag blogging : eep

This is where I rip off am inspired by Havi Brook’s Friday Chicken.
Because learning lessons noticing is important.
***
This week I was watching the words I’ve been using.
I have one main noticing about this.
Conflict-y type noticings
Speaking mindfully is most often about not speaking at all
Having paid attention to the words I’m saying even more than I [...]

Read the full article →

Friday list #4 – When people talk they’re saying things

Writing this from my sick-desk.
I hope I’m not delirious.
This may be short. Or ridiculously long. Let’s see…
I mainly focused on shutting up and listening this week.
Conflict-y noticings
‘Shut Up and Listen’ has two meanings.
First, don’t speak. Second, be quiet inside. The first I could teach. The second? I don’t know…

I’m bad at not speaking
I have to [...]

Read the full article →

Friday list #3 – Yay four and half steps!

Conflict-y Noticings
I was mainly watching things about emotions this week.
Things I noticed are:
Be careful of Hector Projector when both people are upset

It’s very easy when both people are upset to blame the other person. I mean, obviously what you’re doing is just a result of what they’re doing. They started it.
Thing is, they might be [...]

Read the full article →