From the category archives:

Shut up and listen

The One Freak-Out Rule

I’m instituting a new rule experiment (seeing as it’s a listening week).
If someone else is freaking out, shut up and listen.
In other words, you’re only allowed to freak out if the other person isn’t.
Fear and anger make listening hard
I’m noticing that when I’m feeling one of the adrenalin emotions (fear, anger, and their more subtle [...]

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The Tell-Me-More Buffer

Of course, I know the benefit of listening.
Gives space for more meaning to come in, helps people feel heard (duh) and there was that realisation that when people are speaking they’re saying something.

You might have also caught the fact that I think active listening is evil.
However.
I am looking at how I am in conversation – [...]

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Shut Up and Listen

Before I get into expert mode, a little self-importance-balloon-popping.
Disclaimer-type story
This year me and some friends were discussing Lent. One friend was giving up chocolate.
I said I might give up interrupting people.
My friends literally laughed until they cried.
So, yeah – I’ve got a lot to learn about listening.
Here are, however, my initial thoughts – kind of [...]

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