Free help to stop dreading difficult conversations. Some now, some later. Plus: discounts!
Hi! Do you want some quiet, practical help on how to stop dreading (and start finally having) the conversations you find difficult in your life?
Then, my lovely, then you might want to get in on the APRWFADL.
The A Peaceful Resolution Weekly Focus and Advance Discount List. (What? My business. My acronyms.)
If you enter your email address in that box over on the right you get three things: an e-book, weekly skills development and discounts.
1. You get an ebook on how to stop dreading difficult conversations.
One of the major characteristics of difficult conversations is we don’t look forward to them. At. All.
So I bet there are times when there are conversations you know you need to have but you never, how shall we say, quite get around to them?
As well as conflict situations, a difficult conversation could be:
~ selling your ideas
~ asking for a favour
~ giving bad news
~ even speaking to strangers.
With this book, you’ll be equipped with eleven strategies to get past your procrastination and finally get around to saying what needs to be said. Some of the strategies are very nitty-gritty, some are a bit more conceptual (if you will), a couple are a little bit woo-woo. There’s no one-size-fits-all with communication stuff, so there’s something (or hopefully several somethings) for everyone. Yes, including slightly strange little you.
It’s a pdf, so no need for an e-book reader or anything, just Adobe Acrobat which is free and probably on your computer anyway.
2. You get a weekly email with a focus for getting better at an aspect of difficult conversations.
Difficult conversations are one of those things that you probably don’t get daily practice in, and trying things out when you are in the middle of one is hardly the best idea.
These emails allow you to get on with what you’re getting on with and still be able to improve, no matter what you’re involved in.
Then, when you get around to a difficult conversation, your instincts will be better because of the habits you’ve built over time.
Whilst there are some things that can help you to get better fast, many of the skills involved in staying steady and communicating clearly in difficult conversations are best built up over time.
If you join the weekly focus list, you’ll get an email once a week (probably on a Sunday/Monday) that gives you something to notice or practice during the week.
You get an ongoing ‘curriculum’ that takes you through some gradual shifts in your skills.
I figure gradual improvement can be more sustainable, ne?
It might be:
~ exercises in how to listen in a certain way
~ getting you to notice a certain language pattern
~ focused on an aspect of handling emotions better
~ practice in saying things in a particular manner.
Plus, they don’t demand any more time from you – you’ll just carry on your day, but with a part of your brain monitoring aspects of your experience.
It’s a bit of a Karate Kid thing, so you don’t necessarily get full explanations of why you’re doing things, but you’ll notice a difference over time… (Not that I’m saying I’m Mr Miyagi, obviously…)
The aim is, over time, for you to:
~ Be able to move towards difficult conversations easier
~ Prepare in a way that leaves you unclenched
~ Stay unclenched in the face of emotion
~ Listen in a way that takes the tension out of high-stakes situations
~ Speak in a way that leads to sustainable resolution
~ Review your conversations in a way that leaves you persistent when you need to be, and also leaves you learning from your experience in a healthy way.
Wax on, wax off…
Sound like your kind of thing?
3. You get advance discounts.
Sign up and you’ll be on my Advance Discount List so that when I’m about to launch a New Thing, you’ll hear about it first. With a big ol’ discount.
You get other stuff too.
Sometimes there’s stuff that is too in-depth or too personal to just whack up the blog. As an APRWFADL person, you get that too.
Q: What if I want the book but don’t want the emails?
If you don’t want to be on the list, you can just sign up, get the book, unsubscribe. I won’t be offended, truly. I know about full inboxes and I only want you to stay on the list because you want to.
Q: What if it’s not my kind of thing?
Well, don’t sign up. Even if we’re mates, don’t feel obliged. Or… give it a go for a month. You can always unsubscribe. I don’t check.
There’ll still be regular articles on the blog, it’s just this is a bit more structured and in-depth.
Q: What if it turns out I don’t like it?
There’s an unsubscribe link in every email. Just click and I don’t darken your emailic door ever again.
But hey, the regular free advice! The discounts!
Up to you.
Sign up in the box top-right.
*You only need enter your email address. I don’t need any other info. Plus, those ‘Hello, [NAME]‘ emails are so patronising. It’s not like you don’t know they’re going to more people than just you. In fact, if you ever get an email from me addressed to you by name, it’s directly from me. Just so’s you know.
P.S. So that’s an e-book, weekly emails, discounts and occasional other useful stuff. Free. What’s not to love?