‘Chill out a bit’ could be a good mantra for me of late….missing chill out mates though, thinking of having to move closer to at least one pod of them.

I am thinking now that it building a practice of this that will stop the complete break down in times of crisis and real conflict. a little Will.

The first thing I would do is, of course, to listen to your Inner Communicator – it obviously feels strongly about protecting you from invisibility.

A couple of things that might help it (her?) maybe chill out a bit.

First, we’re just talking about being conscious during conflict situations – not all the time.

Secondly, it’s being a *little* more mindful (especially at the beginning), maybe making a couple of habits that will make *unnecessary* conflict a *bit* less likely. We’re not talking about slowly choosing each word that comes out of your mouth, which I think would be a neurologically impossible task.

Thirdly, the mind’s first instinct is to take options and take them to the two extremes. I wonder whether sometimes there might be a middle way, an ‘and’ – eg is there a way to be more conscious in choosing my words AND be visible?

Thanks for a very real comment – made me think…

Onto content of this post and a question I suppose from my inner communicator (?!)

” No one waits anymore, no one listens, people talk over one another as a matter of course. How am I to be heard if I chose words carefully, unless I learn to do it bloody fast ”

Ok so this is probably coming from a fearful place where disappearing into invisibility in the world is highly likely given recent and current experience at least… :O