Comments on: The danger of being less certain http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/the-danger-of-being-less-certain/ Stay gentle and useful in conflict and crisis Tue, 27 Jul 2010 04:07:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Jill http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/the-danger-of-being-less-certain/comment-page-1/#comment-151 Jill Tue, 26 Jan 2010 10:46:14 +0000 http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/?p=239#comment-151 ...I would like to beg you dear Sir, as well as I can, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don't search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer. Rainer Maria Rilke, 1903 in Letters to a Young Poet …I would like to beg you dear Sir, as well as I can, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.

Rainer Maria Rilke, 1903
in Letters to a Young Poet

]]> By: Opening to uncertainty — A Peaceful Resolution http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/the-danger-of-being-less-certain/comment-page-1/#comment-150 Opening to uncertainty — A Peaceful Resolution Tue, 26 Jan 2010 09:22:48 +0000 http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/?p=239#comment-150 [...] wrote yesterday about my spiritual-path crisis (as a result of being less certain – ironic, [...] [...] wrote yesterday about my spiritual-path crisis (as a result of being less certain – ironic, [...]

]]> By: Andrew Lightheart http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/the-danger-of-being-less-certain/comment-page-1/#comment-149 Andrew Lightheart Tue, 26 Jan 2010 06:54:55 +0000 http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/?p=239#comment-149 Hey Larisa Thanks for the sharing and the encouragement. I have all sorts of unhelpful beliefs about comfort, I think, including that it might be a 'bad' way of making decisions (like they're meant to be made based on 'truth' or something). And yet, yes, when I tune in to comfort, it's really nourishing and shows me where I'm closing off and shutting down. Damn! Not got it all figured out just yet, as the girl says. Hey Larisa

Thanks for the sharing and the encouragement.

I have all sorts of unhelpful beliefs about comfort, I think, including that it might be a ‘bad’ way of making decisions (like they’re meant to be made based on ‘truth’ or something).

And yet, yes, when I tune in to comfort, it’s really nourishing and shows me where I’m closing off and shutting down.

Damn! Not got it all figured out just yet, as the girl says.

]]> By: Larisa http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/the-danger-of-being-less-certain/comment-page-1/#comment-148 Larisa Mon, 25 Jan 2010 16:28:55 +0000 http://www.apeacefulresolution.com/?p=239#comment-148 Hi Andrew, I've struggled with the whole 'comfort as a valid choice' thing as well. For me, a huge part of the problem has been thinking of comfort as being this stagnant state of mediocrity (think of a couple living together for years, not talking/engaging, sitting on a couch watching tv all day). When I get in touch with the actual quality of comfort, however, I have a very different experience. My heart opens, my breathing deepens, I feel connected and engaged, and I have this deep sense of 'knowing' what is right for me. That's my experience. And, I have a Pema story! One evening, in the middle of a nearly incapacitating migraine, I was blindly following my boyfriend and his father around a bookstore. I happened to read the title of one of Pema's books (my first introduction to her). Just reading the title served to pull me out of the pain in my head and into my heart. I started crying and the headache released. Living in uncertainty takes tremendous courage and I so appreciate both your struggle and your sharing of it. Thank you! Hi Andrew,

I’ve struggled with the whole ‘comfort as a valid choice’ thing as well. For me, a huge part of the problem has been thinking of comfort as being this stagnant state of mediocrity (think of a couple living together for years, not talking/engaging, sitting on a couch watching tv all day).

When I get in touch with the actual quality of comfort, however, I have a very different experience. My heart opens, my breathing deepens, I feel connected and engaged, and I have this deep sense of ‘knowing’ what is right for me.

That’s my experience. And, I have a Pema story! One evening, in the middle of a nearly incapacitating migraine, I was blindly following my boyfriend and his father around a bookstore. I happened to read the title of one of Pema’s books (my first introduction to her). Just reading the title served to pull me out of the pain in my head and into my heart. I started crying and the headache released.

Living in uncertainty takes tremendous courage and I so appreciate both your struggle and your sharing of it. Thank you!

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